What happened to those old hobbies that got left behind and lost in the hectic struggle of day-to-day living? When was the last time that you joined a club or a team just because you could? Since when did sitting in front of the TV with your laptop on your lap and your iPhone sitting next to you become your favourite pastime? Do you shake your head at something just because it is new and different? Do you wait for plans to fall into your lap rather than to go out and do what you want to do? How long have you envied your friends who always seem to have something new and exciting happening on the weekend?
If you have found yourself pausing uncomfortably over any or most of the questions asked above, then I think it has to be said: you have forgotten how to live!
This post isn’t just for singles. It is for everyone who has lost themselves beneath their responsibilities: their job, their mortgage, their kids, their partner etc. It’s time to get out, to put aside time for you and you only.Think about the people who you admire. Do they have hobbies, interests, passions? Think about how much more attractive a person becomes when you discover they have a life outside of work, outside of obligation and beyond their relationships. It’s time you became that person. And the changes you make don’t have to be big, or expensive.
Rediscover yourself. Sit down with a cup of coffee/tea/water/wine and make a list of all of the things that interest you -and be honest! If you don’t like exercising don’t write it down. You might have plans to put your body into motion and get fit, but that doesn’t have to fall into the ‘fun’ category. On the other hand if you are one of those people who like exercise then by all means, please write it down. Remember to put down the things that you like, that you have tried once maybe and enjoyed, that you would like to try but haven’t had the chance to yet.
Don’t over do it and scare yourself off. Start small. If you have put writing or photography down, don’t go out and spend loads of money on a brand new camera or an interstate writing course. Do some reading of your favourite genre or look through photography websites and decide what type of style best suits you.
Also, it’s important to be realistic with what is readily available to you. If you have put down skiing as a potential hobby then you might want to live somewhere close to the snow, or have loads of cash waiting to be spent on ski trips to powder-snow covered Japan. Either way, don’t set yourself up for failure.
What I did was decide on three interests to focus on. They were food, reading and adventure sport.
1. Food was easy, I decided that rather than spending my money on unecessary binge drinking over the weekend as I had been doing for years, I would start indulging my inner foodie by finding out where the best eateries were in my city. Now I am well versed in all the hot spots and love calling up my ‘foodie friends’ to discuss where we should check out next or which market we should pop into to get ingredients for our next culinary adventures. I might even start cooking lessons if this continues -definitely a passion brewing.
2. To be honest, reading hasn’t been as easy. I love love LOVE books and have always enjoyed reading but have found that since I started full time work, the time for my favourite fictitious masterpieces has dwindled. My aim was to fit in just one hour of reading per week and even still I am struggling. Why is it that I manage to find the time to watch the random TV programs that I am not even following and yet I don’t have a spare moment to finished the second Game of Thrones book? Anyhoo… I will keep persevering with this my reading -I know I just need to make better choices.
3. Rock climbing = success! I have always been a bit of a thrill seeker I always loved fast rides at them parks etc. So I opted to go with rock climbing as my adventure sport hobby. Luckily my sister was as keen as I was to give it a go and we also have a centre just down the road. After a few months we decided to buy the harness and the shoes making it a REAL hobby as opposed to a passing phase. We have been climbing for over a year and a half now and yes! That person in the photo is ME -I swear!
Having passions, interests and hobbies make life worth living. It gives you something to talk about, something to enthuse over -and hell, you might find that people gravitate towards your openness to trying new things. Rediscover yourself, spend some much needed time getting to know who you are and what you like to do. If a hobby or an interest doesn’t work out for you, don’t be disheartened, pick something else and try again.
And whilst it should not be the aim, maybe while you are rediscovering yourself and your new passions someone else might discover YOU.